Having just lost fifty-one pounds in three and half months, I can tell you that dieting is not a solo sport. True
While friends and family are often the saboteurs, unwittingly, unintentionally, they are also the people we need on our team most. You do not need all of them, but you do need at least one family member and one friend.
Family Members
You need an ally in the family because you will be eating different foods. Depending on the diet you have selected, you may be eating at different times from the rest of the gang. It is also likely that you will impact the grocery budget. I chose to be on a high protein, no carb regimen. Thanks to our also no longer drinking alcohol we were able to divert wine and gin money to more steak, chicken and fish. Decent steak and fish is way more expensive than hamburger! If it hadn't been for the total buy-in of my husband, my own
A Friend
You need someone to hold the vision for you. There is lots of doubt along the route of
A Cheap Source For Clothes
After a while, and it took me longer than I had anticipated, you will start dropping clothing sizes. This speeds up once you've lost thirty pounds, and once you're into sizes that are no longer elasticated waists! It can fun to get into old favorite, but dauntingly expensive to have to get a whole new wardrobe, and when? At which point? I gave away my fat clothes, sadly. Mad, I know, but it was bittersweet for me. That regret came from the fact that I had worked hard to find nice, colorful plus-sized clothes that weren't black, gray or brown. I had to get into the mindset that just as I was experiencing
Resistance
They don't want to resist your changing, but they can't help themselves. Both your family and your friends will unwittingly try to sabotage your success. You need to recognize this when it comes up, and take it not as spite but as love and fear. They love you and have loved you wholeheartedly no matter what you looked like. Now you are changing. They can see it. Is it really just your physique that's changing or will you too become a different person? Your loved ones don't want to lose you. A natural qualm is triggered when change occurs. Fundamentally, no-one really likes change, do they? So, it is up to you to gently take the person in hand and assure them that you need them in your life just as much now as ever before.
Between online communities, family and friends you do not have to take the